Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Need

I read a lot of blogs written by people who have issue with The Church As We Know It. Some have experiences that mirror mine, while others are very different. Stories span the spectrum, from severe spiritual abuse to severe boredom. The common point, however, is that there seems be something in each of these stories that indicate something deeply wanted from The Church As We Know It. Right or wrong, there is desire for a return on the investment in relationship. Uncovering this fact was a good therapeutic point for me in understanding my angst toward The Church As We Know It. James simply states that our conflicts all stem from our desires that battle within us. We want something and can’t have it. I eventually figured out what I wanted and could not have. I longed for permission, but did not get it. Just tell me it’s OK to pursue what was on my heart and I’ll move on. But there was more. I longed for validation. Don’t just tell me “OK, you can do this.” I long to hear that my idea is good. Give me your stamp of approval. But there was more. I longed for blessing. Don’t just tell me “OK, you can do this.” Don’t just say it’s a good thing. Tell me it would be tragic if I didn’t pursue the idea. But there was more. I longed for a name. Don’t just tell me “OK, you can do this.” Don’t just say it’s a good thing. Don’t just tell me it would be tragic if I didn’t pursue the idea. Give me a name; your name. Tell the world I belong to you. It took years to finally believe that what I was wanting and what I was asking for was not bad. In fact, I still long to be validated, blessed and named. The difference now is letting the desires be just that; desire. Instead, I turned them into demands, and I took them to The Church As We Know It for fulfillment. I can’t determine whether or not my desires will come to pass, but I can decide to keep them alive or not.

3 comments:

Maria said...

Beautifully said, Kevin. There are some personalities who can let the Lord's validation, blessing, naming be enough to keep them going. That's important, but for us mere mortals, we need brothers and sisters who can say those things, and keep saying them.

glenn said...

Kevin~

Thanks for putting this into words. I call it trying to break into the cage. Ultimately, the validation has to come from God or we are setting ourselves up for a fall.

Yet, everyone needs a purpose and a people. It is never a 100% right and sometimes is nothing more than a longing, though the little fleeting moments are sweet.

It is the human story. We expect too much and enjoy too little. Our focus is on the destination and we fail to value the journey.

stepchild said...

Thank you for this post. I appreciate the words you use here to express exactly what so many of us have been feeling.

I know it's not needed, but for the sake of unity, I hope that we can provide the permission, validation, blessing, and name for those who come after us.